No man can completely satisfy his wife. Not mine. Not yours.
Mine has tried.
I’m married to a good and godly man who honestly tries to give me everything he feasibly can. And if I ask for something, he may hem and haw around the price for a minute or two, but he’ll never deny me if it’s at all in his power to provide what I’ve asked.
Still, he cannot supply all my needs.
God alone desires to and is able to meet my every need. Whether I’m craving unconditional love, stalwart security, a sense of significance or purpose, my God can completely grant what I ask if I
- go to Him and
- believe Him.
- is not demanding, whining, complaining, or negative. She is filled with joy and her demeanor expresses deep satisfaction.
- focuses on others instead of herself. She has plenty to give, so she doesn’t mind offering.
- asks how she can help. She wants to be a blessing to others in her life.
- gives her husband room and time to do the things he enjoys without assuming that his preoccupation with other things is a slam toward her.
- supports her husband by speaking to him with gracious, kind, and encouraging words. She has nothing to profit from speaking cruel, demeaning, or sarcastic words.
- gives him time to regroup or rest when needed. She doesn’t need things instantly from him. She can wait.
- is strong and capable of doing many things for herself. She does not feel the need to manipulate him with a pretense of weakness or cluelessness. She’s a smart gal, strong and competent!
- says what she means…gently, of course. But she doesn’t play word games, expecting her husband to read her mind or know what she “really” means.
- is not chasing the wind. She’s not all caught up in one pursuit after another, trying to find that elusive something to satisfy her itch. She’s content and at rest.
- can be trusted. She isn’t looking for another man who can satisfy her better than the one she has. She’s committed to her man, but she’s satisfied with her God.
- is not resentful when her husband goes through a particularly needy time. If he’s sick, discouraged at work, tired, or disheartened, she does not get angry or put out. Instead she is able to help him through the tough time.
- is comfortable with her femininity. She doesn’t try to wear the pants in the house (though she may look mighty fine in her jeans!) because she is satisfied with the purpose and significance God has given her as a woman. She’s not struggling against her womanhood, so her man feels more like a man!