Believe me, if anyone can attest to the fact that there are some grumpy folks in the church, it’s me. I’ve encountered more than my share as a pastor’s wife. And that’s not to say that I don’t like the church. I love the church. It’s the bride of Christ, for Pete’s sake!
- serves. She does not judge her church by how well it serves her and her family, but instead is actively serving others in and through her church, contributing to its well-being rather than complaining about the lack thereof.
- submits to appropriate authority. She isn’t out to prove something or lord over others out of some search for significance or power. She is, instead, freed up to “submit to one another.” And she doesn’t bristle at authority. She understands that God has established authority in the church so it can function correctly.
- is a team player. She doesn’t focus solely on promoting her ministry, her group or her ideas. Instead she works with others and supports them in their callings and passions, as well.
- welcomes visitors, new members, etc., making a real effort to help others feel safe and at home in small group meetings, Bible study, the worship service, and at fellowships. She isn’t consumed with why “no one spoke to me,” but instead goes out of her way to speak to others and include them.
- is a part of the solution rather than the problem. She doesn’t say things like, “Someone in our church needs to…” or “Why don’t we have a …” or “The pastor ought to…” Instead, when she notices a need and God lays a burden on her heart, she prays about it and asks Him if she needs to offer her services in that area.
- forgives other believers when they don’t meet her expectations…including the pastors. She realizes that no one is perfect and so, while her feelings may get hurt on the rare occasion, she doesn’t keep a list of offenses to use as a weapon later on. Instead, she confronts graciously, if necessary, and then offers forgiveness.
- extends grace freely, frequently, and without complaint. Why? Because she recognizes she has been the recipient of “amazing grace.”
- is passionately sharing the gospel with others. Why? Because she wants to show hungry people where they too can find satisfaction.
- has no agenda. She simply wants to join God wherever He is at work.
- shows appreciation, gives thanks to others, encourages others, and quickly gives credit to others. Why? Because her desire for significance and purpose and affirmation are satisfied through Jesus and His Word. So she can freely be used to give those things to others without resentment.