Actually, I’m not at the party yet. But I’ve thought more than once about throwing myself one. I’ve heard, however, that pity parties rarely end well and sometimes the host even drowns at them. So I’m thinking I shouldn’t even bother sending out the invitations.
Instead, I thought I’d
beg invite you to help me resist the urge to even go there. Today, I’m humbly asking for your advice, encouragement and prayers. I mean I really need you to pause and give me something here. It would be so appreciated.
What’s the occasion for my pity party? Because there usually is one, you know.
My nest is emptying out completely and probably once and for all Friday morning before the birds even get up. At 0’dark-thirty my youngest child, Abby, will fly out to Georgia to join her brother who already lives there. No, she’s not living with him. She has a wonderful job with WinShape Camps for the summer and then will begin to pursue her acting career in Atlanta. But the point is both of my chick-a-dees will be living in a different neck of the woods from me…about 2,000 miles away…three time zones away.
So the Pity Party Supply Depot has gotten my number and begun to call regularly. 😉
Really, you need to know that I am extremely happy for my daughter. The Lord has blessed her with an amazing ministry opportunity this summer. Abby is going to be the Worship Speaker for the older girls (girls who have just finished grades 6-12). Each day she will have approximately 45 minutes to share dynamic, biblical truths from the platform and one-on-one with hundreds of young women. Actually, according to Abigail’s curriculum, she will be preaching. Yep, that’s the word they use. That’s what my daughter will be doing almost every day this summer.
Abigail is uniquely gifted for this calling, and God has seen fit to give her the privilege of serving Him and hundreds of teen girls with her abilities, her passion and her heart this summer. I am so grateful that God is giving her this responsibility and blessing. And I wouldn’t for a minute want her to stay home.
Abby’s been itching to move on to somewhere new for a number of years now. And I’ve always known, especially considering the field God has called her into and gifted her for, that she wouldn’t be living anywhere near my husband and me. I also knew my son would probably not live near us here on the border of Mexico. And, because we are in ministry and never know when God may call us to pick up and move somewhere else anyhow, I have never even tried to encourage my kids to stick close to us. They’ve been raised to develop strong wings and fly wherever God may lead them…just like my husband and I have done. And Abby hasn’t lived with us for over three years, mind you. And she’s spent the last two summers up in Oregon at another camp. And, thanks to the generosity of my parents, I already have plane tickets for two separate trips out to see my kids this summer! I really have nothing to get all pitiful about.
But still it hurts. Abby’s absence will leave a big hole in my life. She is not only my only daughter, but she has become one of my dearest friends. There is no one I enjoying spending time with more. We have a blast together and I love her wildly! Bottom line, I’m going to miss my baby girl…and my sweet, sweet friend.
Oops! I think I hear Pity Party Supply Depot calling again! I better send out my invitation and turn this party over to you…quick!
- Would you please take a moment to pray for me as I go through this major transition? Just pray for me to feel the feelings, but to doggedly dwell on what is true and honorable and right and pure and lovely and reputable and excellent and praiseworthy. Pray for God to walk me through this season of change and for me to feel His presence and hear His voice as He does.
- Would you offer me some encouraging words or even a scripture of hope and resolve, if you have a moment? I would cherish your words.
- And if you’ve been in my shoes…are in my shoes…would you give me a little advice? I’m so humbled by the outlook that I am desperately seeking sound, godly advice. If you live far from your children, would you please share with me from your heart and your experience?
I’m currently reading Barbara and Susan’s Guide to the Empty Nest by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates, and it’s proving to be a valuable and comforting resource. But I’d love your perspective as well. Thanks so much dear blog readers. Your help means the world to me.
Are you struggling with a new chapter in your life? You don’t have to navigate this new path alone. I encourage you to follow my lead and ask for help. Find a good book or website that addresses your struggle from a biblical perspective. But also ask people in your church, friends, or your pastor for guidance. The Bible encourages us to live in a one-another community so that we can encourage one another, hold one another accountable, correct one another, love one another and bear one another’s burdens. Who might you ask for perspective and guidance today?